It shouldn’t be an effort to get back into the dating scene after a divorce. Sure, there are a few things to finalize and divorce is tough as there are memories from reliving your divorce, the loneliness and seeking answers comes up short. You’ve been out of the game for a while and you’re a bit rusty. You want to get back into the swing of things; if you follow this dating advice for divorced men it might help you sort out your issues and provide answers on how to proceed before you break your celibacy.
Be patient and don’t try dating too soon after you divorce. Give yourself enough time to work through your anger, hurt, self-pity and depression. If you deal with it first, you will be ready to have another healthy relationship. The right timing is important as rebound relationships don’t tend to last.
Try not to date before the divorce papers are signed as a romantic encounter before may be disastrous having to explain yourself in court. Tie up all the loose ends, get rid of your exes’ clothes and find complete closure without stalking her.
Lean on your friends as it will be tough on your own at first. Inform them of your intention to start dating again as they can be your support group. With their involvement you have a better chance of success. They know you quite well, so they may be able to set you up with a good blind date. Just don’t get pushed into a relationship.
Keep yourself well-groomed. You know, the usual; smelling fresh, nails cut, hair combed, clean ironed clothes etc. If you take care of your appearance you will make a good first impression.
Try going out solo when you have your confidence back. Meet new women by joining some social groups and clubs like a gym, tennis club or a bowling league.
Before you date online make sure that you do a little research first. Whatever you do, make sure that it feels right.
Here are some tips for flirting as you may have lost a bit of touch on exactly what to do. A little flattery goes a long way. Give her some honest compliments concentrating on what stands out – without over exaggerating of course. She would be able to tell if you’re blowing it up. Have eye contact while you’re talking to each other. When she’s talking, lean in and listen, not releasing your gaze. Ask her questions to tell her you’re interested. Don’t use corny pick up lines as she may find it unattractive. Simply walk up to her, say hello, ask if you could buy her a drink and sit next to her.
Keep on trying until your feel for the game and the rules of dating return. Get your mindset ready for meeting new people. If you take the pressure off yourself to ‘perform’ you will have the real you come out and be relaxed. It will do you well to focus on the positive.
I hope after reading this dating advice for divorced men you will have confidence to go at it again. Remember to be yourself and have fun, you deserve to be happy.